3 Things Your Ambition Wants You to Know
3 Things Your Ambition Wants You to Know
Pressure on or pressure off?
Create the win or agonize in the lack of results?
As ambitious women, these are the fundamental sources of our motivation. If we’re not ready to “go hard or go home” then we’re not going to do it at all. And if we’re not getting the job done or happen to fail – there must be something wrong.
Like that time I threw a muffin down the hall at my first job.
Three months before I graduated from George Mason University, I landed a job as a Marketing Assistant in the cable industry. Full salary, full benefits and responsibility for the entire monthly newsletter… oh, I was da bomb.
I took that newsletter very seriously. It had the power to define my personal brand and worthiness to Director-level executives at Fortune 500 cable companies – everything had to go as planned, including my boss’ customer care column.
I remember that morning like it was yesterday.
It was an hour before my self-imposed newsletter deadline and I was storming down the hallway to assertively inform my boss that she was late on sending me her copy. Well, you can imagine how that turned out. I left storming out of her office, more mad then before because my deadlines weren’t the top priority. I was steaming!
How could she not see that my reputation was on the line?
What will others think when this doesn’t go out on time?
This is unacceptable.
Oh, and I may or may not have, accidently, “dropped” my muffin down the hall as I was storming back to my cubicle. Allegedly.
The challenge with creating pressure as a source of motivation is that you eliminate room for failure. Then that creates resentment. And next thing you know, you no longer love your ambition.
If your inner queen could speak, here’s what she’d like you to know.
A plan without trust is a wish list.
Do you trust yourself? Seriously. Do you trust yourself enough to take a risk and it is worthwhile? If not, you’re going to find yourself only doing the things listed in your plan. When you truly trust yourself and your intuition, you’ll open up space to be with greater possibilities. You will begin to build a higher risk-tolerance and step into unknown opportunities from a mindset of innovation versus fear. Big opportunities come your way all the time – it’s the lack of trust in yourself that has you pass them by.
We do not need a safety net.
You are creative, innovate, reliable, and resilient. Safety nets create the illusion that all of these things are true. If the universe aligns with what we focus on, having a safety net creates a distraction. You being to focus on the safe, incremental next steps that will eventually get you to your goal. Yes, eventually, because usually you also resist creating a goal date. Then you really don’t have to “be with” failure.
It is never about money or time – it’s about choice.
Your ambition wasn’t created to keep you busy, overwhelmed or broke. It’s there to embrace the forever expanding world and create more abundance in your life. Here’s the trick with money and time – they create boundaries, limits, and barriers to abundance. From a place of lack and scarcity, we begin to believe that a lack of time or money is the truth. It becomes our hardcore truth about the reality we live in that no one else understands. Ambitiously abundant women, practice living in the reality they are in the process of creating – not what seems to be true today. When you choose to operate without a safety net and trust yourself – you will always find enough time or money to make it happen, today.
Our ambitions get a bad reputation because of how we use it.
To create overwhelm.
To create pressure.
To create judgments.
To be a winner or a loser.
I’ve been there too and can promise you that there’s more to life than struggle and perseverance. Practice noticing the physical and mental triggers that indicate you’re using your ambition in a wacky way. Then make a choice.
If your ambition was speaking to you, what would she say?
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